There has been a lot of hype about “The Secret” to reaching our goals and dreams: Is it done through Intention or Strategic Planning and diligence?  Women mostly like to believe that it is through their more feminine energy that they can create: visualizing, intending, intuiting, and surrendering to their Divine.  Men traditionally for years have believed that a good plan and hard work will do the trick.

I would have to say, as an Executive Coach and Trainer, that the balance of both methods is true, in my opinion.  The acronym that puts the two practices together for me is this:

V - Get clear about the VISION of what it is you want in your life, personally and professionally

I - Now exercise your INTENTION in everything you do.  Feel how important this vision is to you and make the commitment to the choices required that are in alignment with what it is you say you want.  Notice when you seem to want something more than what you say you want.  Be curious about that and then ask yourself what that is about for you and what choices you could make that would work for you to get you what it is you say you want.  Be open with yourself and explore possibilities

S – Then, after you have discovered what obstacles get in your way and new possibilities of reaching what it is you say you want, plan out the specific STRATEGIES that work for you to meet your vision

E – Create confidence and EMPOWERMENT in yourself by making the choices that you have contracted with yourself to make.  Notice how when you are in integrity with what you say you want, you will attract more of the opportunities to you. As you honor your own intention, you will stop sabotaging yourself by not recognizing your own inner obstacle of double-minded thinking and then choosing conflict avoidance and conveniently blaming it on something else or someone else.  Instead you will take responsibility to discover what it is you really want and how to get there

I believe in the principle of “what we think about, we bring about” and the enormous power of our minds, however, I also believe that sometimes our mind possesses double-minded thinking, which is the reason we do not get what we say we want.  We may say we want something, but deep down do not want to sacrifice a comfortable behavior to get it. Or perhaps, we truly want what we say we want, but do not believe we deserve it (after all little missy, who do you think you are anyway? J)   That is why, both having INTENTION for what we want and thinking through a do-able STRATEGY is important, in order for us to reach our goals.  Being disciplined in both matters, will help us to be empowered enough to make the choices that are in alignment with our intentions, as they present themselves.

My consulting business, Susan K. Wehrley & Associates, Inc., (www.solutionsbysusan.com ) has been going into businesses for the last 22 years teaching management teams, executives and employees to reach their goals in the most fulfilled and effective ways.  Often, what starts out as a business focus, will end up incorporating other aspects of their lives, because after all we are whole people who have habits and life skill sets (or not) that effect us in both areas of our lives.  My business has primarily been business-to-business to make the Company Strategic Planning more clear within the company and to operationalize it all the way down to each employee so that they understand, in each moment of choice, which decisions would put them in synch with their teammates and the company vision and goals. I have found people who do this in all areas of their life are more apt to carry this behavior out at work, because they understand how to recognize “the elephant in the room” that might be getting in the way of achieving their goals and how to deal with it.

When we hold ourselves accountable to “say what we mean, and mean what we say” we hold an intention of integrity for ourselves.  This also means that we have committed to deal with obstacles as they come up so that we can stay on track.   Living in integrity means that our “yes” means “yes” and our “no” means “no”, even in the face of adversity and challenge.   For some people, this is why they have vague and foggy goals: They would rather avoid conflict than create the life they want.

Do you have foggy thinking? What are you doing to become more intentional this New Year?

Susan K. Wehrley

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Founder/CEO of BIZremedies

262-780-1944

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1.  Your attitude is your most valuable asset.   Nourish it with positive ideas, books and loving people who compliment you and look for ways to compliment and support them.
2. Write a list of things you’re thankful for…..  my favorite tool to keep me on track with being positive is the "Miracle Manifestation Journal" technique.  Her pages on appreciation give a whole new meaning to thinking positive thoughts.  She suggests that you not only identify WHAT you appreciate but WHY.   here are some examples:  I truly appreciate MY LIFE  because it is filled with limitless possibilities for me to explore.                           I really appreciate ELECTRICITY because it provides limitless ways for me to be comfortable, creative, and productive. Jacuelyn Aldana provides a full page of powerfully positive new ideas for appreciating your life.   
3. Write down three kind things that were done for you today
4. or  kind things that you did for someone else…..Kindness comes with no strings.Did you hold the door for someone?  Say something nice to the cashier? Let a car merge?
5. Think of a person who has made a positive difference in your life. Who and why? Write a note to them and thank them and tell them how and why they made a difference.
6. Make a list of four things you do well: cooking, cleaning, organizing, story telling, loving
7. Think of a way you could surprise and delight someone you love tomorrow.
8. Write down at least 10 things that you like about yourself. If you like yourself you become immediately more attractive to others.
9. Think of your favorite physical activities as a child—biking, skipping,dancing, monopoly,Uno, Yahtzee..do them again.  Do them with your children.
10. Write down three things that your children have done well lately.  Compliment them, ,preferably in front of your children and others.
11. Think of five qualities that you appreciate or enjoy about your partner.  Write them down and tell that person  what you love about them.  Slip the note under their pillow.

How do you keep your spirits up?     

How do you feel when you compliment others?   Does it lift your spirits?

I invite you to add to this list and share your joy jumping ideas.

Miracles Happen!  and it's about time they happen to YOU!